Before I jump in on this post, I want to make a quick note that I fully understand that many of you don't have kids or maybe never want them. On the flip side, a lot of you are parents!
Truth be told, I used to have a pretty icy stance towards wanting kids. But after talking to so many of you that are parents my thoughts on kids have changed a lot, and I've actually learned a bunch of really cool parenting tips that I'll implement later down the road (no mom…still not happening for a while).
One thing I know a lot of millennials will probably deal with about 10-15 years from now is their child's performance at school and what that ultimately means for their future success.
I'm living proof that your kids can have bad grades and still be successful
This is one of those cool times on the site where I can dig in to my experience as an ex-high school teacher and pull back the curtain on what teachers actually think about your kids. 🙂
I have a lot of former students that drove me freaking nuts when I was teaching. There were SEVERAL that I was 99% sure wouldn't even be able to survive as an adult, much less be successful.
There were seriously kids that were 16-17 years old that I had to walk to their classes to make sure they turned in homework so they could participate in band. Just really sad stuff haha.
Now I see some of those kids nearing the end of college or that joined the military and the difference is shocking. They look like they are going to be productive contributors to society, which makes me ultimately happy for them and their parents.
My grades were rough in high school
It's a good thing I make decent money now, because if I didn't I would probably be really embarrassed to admit that I was a pretty sub-par student.
There were several times that I was in danger of not being about to participate in after school activities because my grades were so bad.
The biggest reason? I thought the work was stupid and didn't really want to do it.
My parents pushed really hard on me to make sure that I didn't completely blow it, and I'm sure it was really frustrating because my sister was awesome at school and had grades that made mine look like I had a learning deficiency.
They actually had me tested for ADHD at one point just to figure out why I didn't do stuff the way I was supposed to, and I was able to kinda “turn it on” for the doctor long enough to have him say that I didn't have it (my parents didn't know that until probably just now haha).
So what does this have to do with a money blog?
When I was teaching, I saw a lot of kids that were held to super high standards by their parents and it was awesome. Some of my favorite parents were the ones that held their kids accountable when they screwed up.
That accountability is probably one of the biggest reasons that those kids are going to make it in life, even if they were total screw-ups in school and couldn't figure out how to make all A's.
They still have a great shot of pulling it together later down the road and becoming financially successful.
A lot of us are just going to have to employ a ton of patience (while still having high standards) and understand that our kids won't be homeless just because they get C's in school.
My least favorite parents were the ones that made excuses for their kids.
Parent: “Why did you give Sally a zero on her playing test?”
Me: “She said she didn't practice and wasn't going to play anything.”
Parent: “Well that's not fair – you're just picking on her because you don't like her.”
Me: “I told her I'd give her a 50 for just playing the first note and she said no.”
Parent: “…it's still not right that you failed her.”
You get the point.
I'm not saying that those kids won't make it, because who knows…they might become multi-billionaires down the road. But I also wouldn't be surprised if they have a tough time in life and with money.
Every situation is different
One of the biggest things I learned is that there are so many different family dynamics, personalities, and circumstances that go into a kid doing well in school and life. I'm also not pretending to be a parenting guru because obviously I don't have any kids, but I do have some insider knowledge on this subject.
If you are worried about your kid not doing well in school, just realize that they can still become a success. They just might not fit the traditional mold of how we think they should get there.